DISCLAIMER: This post if from my own experiences, so everything you are reading I had to “talk” thorough and live through myself.
I think we all settle a little. We “soften” our realities to believe that this life, right now, is Ok. We are fine with that. It’s not totally a bad thing. We are created to survive. “Settling” may bring some sort of comfort to you. It may calm you….for a little while. We were created to survive, that is your brains #1 job, but we also have a deep desire to be productive, to be happy and to be positive.
When you settle in a life that you are not 100% happy with, you are settling. I am not talking perfection, I am talking fulfillment, joy, peace, gentleness, love, connection. If those things aren’t the dominate feelings in your day then you are settling and are not truly happy.
This can lead to so many physical ailments (the science is there to prove it), psychological and mental issues as well as disconnection from relationships and your spiritual life.
Settling isn’t just costing you, but it’s costing your family, your friends, strangers on the street.
When we settle we do not go out into the world and shine our light, we usually hide in the closet and eat cookies (speaking from experiences). Then we talk bad about the girl on social media who seems to have it all together, turn on the TV (usually reality TV), and completely zone out. For some, they numb the pain with alcohol, shopping, or the most common source….Food, usually in the form of sugar. We convince ourselves that it was just a “bad day” and we move on. Then those “bad days” seem to happen more and more and pretty soon they are our Normal. We come to terms with it, so that we survive, and live in our quiet desperation.
Tab, what do you mean settling? I love my husband, I love my kids, I love my job, I don’t feel like I am settling?
I mean settling in the form of WHO YOU ARE. Why you were created. Why you think like you think and do what you do. Striving to uncover the hidden treasures of your heart and going after them.
I was a woman who LOVED her husband, I married my high school sweetheart for goodness sakes! We have a passionate and loving relationship. I was a mom who adored her kids and loved spending time with them. I was a friend who would plan an impromptu road trip just to have a little fun and connect. I was a sister who drove hours to spend time with my siblings. I loved my life, but there was this hole. The hole caused me to feel irritated, uneasy, resentful and judgmental. I said everything was “fine,” and it was…”fine.”
I don’t know about you but I don’t want to live a “fine” life. I want to live an expectation life filled with experiences, joy, peace, fulfillment. I know that life exists had to figure out why I felt this hole and I did! I unlocked it…released it into the world and it has been an incredible ride ever sense.
This life exists for me, but it also exists for YOU!! Let’s unlock it….let’s unleash it…..let’s blow the roof of your “fine” and conquer your dreams!